A four-letter word that is more powerful and magical than the force of a gun — because while a gun only functions when the person holding it acts, love functions on its own.
What makes me appreciate love even more is what the Scriptures say: “God is love” (1 John 4:8). Oh, what a perfect definition! This means that love is perfect because God Himself is perfect.
Love can also be defined as the ability to appreciate and look at people in the right way — the godly way. I strongly believe that we all possess this ability. We all have the capacity to love and to appreciate others, even though life’s harsh experiences sometimes make it seem otherwise.
In this piece, we will explore:
Why love is powerful
What hinders people from expressing love
Why people resist love
The healing power of love
WHY LOVE IS POWERFUL
If there is any word that has been abused or misunderstood more than any other, it must be love. Many people no longer take it seriously because it has been twisted to mean so many things it was never meant to.
Nevertheless, love remains the most powerful word in existence — not because it sounds pleasing to the ear, but because when expressed genuinely, it brings peace, hope, and healing.
I firmly believe that love was the first miracle performed by God. For Him to create the world and grant us the freedom to live and express ourselves — that was love in action.
Love is also the first miracle we experience at birth: the unconditional care of our mothers and the affection of those around us. In return, babies — through their innocence and purity — give back hope, tenderness, and healing to the world.
As Scripture reminds us, “We love because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19).
WHAT HINDERS PEOPLE FROM EXPRESSING LOVE?
As mentioned earlier, everyone is created with the ability to love — to see others through the eyes of compassion and even sacrifice for the good of others.
So, why does it often seem like selfishness rules our world? Why do so many people struggle to give love?
There are several reasons, including:
- Because they don’t have love. You can’t give what you don’t have. Without experiencing love yourself — especially divine love — it’s hard to express it.
- Because they don’t know how to love. Some people have love within them but lack the understanding or maturity to express it properly.
- Because they’re protecting themselves. Painful past experiences often make people build emotional walls to avoid getting hurt again.
As Jesus said, “Because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold” (Matthew 24:12).
WHY DO PEOPLE RESIST LOVE?
While some people find it hard to express love, others fear receiving it. You might have met individuals who seem emotionally guarded — always ready to move on quickly, unwilling to commit or open up.
But why?
Most times, the answer lies in past experiences. There’s an old saying: “Once bitten, twice shy.” Many people build emotional walls to protect themselves from being vulnerable again.
And these experiences don’t always stem from romantic relationships. Betrayal by parents, relatives, or close friends can equally make someone fearful of love — a condition known as philophobia (the fear of love).
According to the Cleveland Clinic, some common causes of philophobia include:
- Family history: Witnessing a loved one struggle with phobias or anxiety can make someone more likely to develop similar fears.
- Genetics: Research suggests certain genetic factors make people more prone to anxiety disorders and phobias.
- Other phobias: People who fear love may also fear commitment (gamophobia), rejection, or abandonment.
From this, it’s safe to conclude that philophobia is more nurtured than natural — often a learned response from pain or observation.
THE HEALING POWER OF LOVE
As the Bible says again, “God is love” (1 John 4:8). Wherever God dwells, there is healing — and since love is of God, love also heals.
Just as the wrong actions of others can rob us of our capacity to love, the right actions can also restore it. Loving people, kind gestures, forgiveness, and compassion can renew hope and rebuild trust in humanity.
It’s up to each of us to choose wisely who we surround ourselves with — people who nurture love, not drain it.
To make love flourish again, we must play our part: extend love to family, friends, strangers, and even those who’ve wronged us. As Romans 12:21 reminds us, “Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”
And most importantly, we must remember that love is more than romance. It is an action, a daily commitment, and a divine expression of God’s nature through us.
Love is continuous. Love is genuine. Love transcends space and time. Because love is God — and God is love.
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